Elder Abuse and Neglect... means I love you.

Elder abuse is not often on the forefront of our minds. When we are younger we can't wait until we are older, but rarely do we think about the crime of elder abuse. I am now 60 years old and to be honest I never gave it a second thought. Last November I was slapped across the face with thoughts of elder neglect when I was standing in the doorway of the Geisinger Hospital in Wilkes Barre, PA.

My mother who is 85 was in the hospital with complaints that she could not breathe. She suffers from COPD and requires oxygen, but for the most part refuses to use it until she is in distress, Anyway, as my sister Robyn Kochan and I were standing in the hospital's doorway I turned to her and said "We need to do something for your mother, I just found out that she is without heat." Without even a second thought she shot back "What do yo want to do... Send her to a nursing home and break her heart or let her live where she is happy and if she freezes to death at least she will die naturally."

Somehow the words "Freezing" and dying naturally just don't belong in the same sentence, but to my sister those words go together as smoothly as peanut butter and jelly. This is what was to become my introduxtion to Elder Abuse in Luzerne County.

A few days later my mother was released and could go home just in time for Thanksgiving. My sister and her husband went out of town to visit relatives while my mother stayed at her apartment and I at mine due to the weather,

On Friday, my mother called and was very upset she asked it she could stay at my house because someone was trying to kill her. Who?, I asked. She said that she didn't know, but she could hear them trying to get in at her late at night. I said, Yes, hwever she would have to call my sister for a ride at night as I no longer drive at night.

My sister brought her, but was pissed off because my mother ruined her evening.  It was going to be a very interesting evening.

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What is Elder Abuse?

Each year hundreds of thousands of older persons are abused, neglected, and exploited. Many victims are people who are older, frail, and vulnerable and cannot help themselves and depend on others to meet their most basic needs. Abusers of older adults are both women and men, and may be family members, friends, or “trusted others.”

In general, elder abuse is a term referring to any knowing, intentional, or negligent act by a caregiver or any other person that causes harm or a serious risk of harm to a vulnerable adult. Legislatures in all 50 states have passed some form of elder abuse prevention laws. Laws and definitions of terms vary considerably from one state to another, but broadly defined, abuse may be:

• Physical Abuse - inflicting physical pain or injury on a senior, e.g. slapping, bruising, or restraining by physical or chemical means.
• Sexual Abuse - non-consensual sexual contact of any kind.
• Neglect - the failure by those responsible to provide food, shelter, health care, or protection for a vulnerable elder.
• Exploitation - the illegal taking, misuse, or concealment of funds, property, or assets of a senior for someone else's benefit.
• Emotional Abuse - inflicting mental pain, anguish, or distress on an elder person through verbal or nonverbal acts, e.g. humiliating, intimidating, or threatening.
• Abandonment - desertion of a vulnerable elder by anyone who has assumed the responsibility for care or custody of that person.
• Self-neglect – characterized as the failure of a person to perform essential, self-care tasks and that such failure threatens his/her own health or safety.

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What are the warning signs of elder abuse?

While one sign does not necessarily indicate abuse, some tell-tale signs that there could be a problem are:

• Bruises, pressure marks, broken bones, abrasions, and burns may be an indication of physical abuse, neglect, or mistreatment.
• Unexplained withdrawal from normal activities, a sudden change in alertness, and unusual depression may be indicators of emotional abuse.
• Bruises around the breasts or genital area can occur from sexual abuse.
• Sudden changes in financial situations may be the result of exploitation.
• Bedsores, unattended medical needs, poor hygiene, and unusual weight loss are indicators of possible neglect.
• Behavior such as belittling, threats, and other uses of power and control by spouses are indicators of verbal or emotional abuse.
• Strained or tense relationships, frequent arguments between the caregiver and elderly person are also signs.

Most importantly, be alert. The suffering is often in silence. If you notice changes in a senior’s personality or behavior, you should start to question what is going on.

Remember, it is not your role to verify that abuse is occurring, only to alert others of your suspicions. Please visit the webpage What If I Suspect Abuse, Neglect, or Exploitation? to learn what you should do if you are concerned that someone you know is being abused. 

- Source -  Department of Health Administration on Aging